The moments that completely change our life
I still remember that day as it happened yesterday. Three years ago, my closed friend got a long-term contract to work for a China-based corporation located in Shenzhen, China. One day before his departure, we did hold a small goodbye party and even bought him a warm coat. The weather there was quite cold. Two days after the party, I called him to ask if everything was ok for him. He told me that he must stay in Hanoi as his father got cancer. His family called him while he was crossing the borderline. Then, he had to stay in the hospital to take care his father for more than one year. My mom said to me his eyes are so deep and the deep-eyed is usually granted the sadness. Actually I do not believe in such a thing but I can see the sadness in his eyes when I visited his father. When his father passed away, I called him to comfort and share with his loss. He said to me that he started to stutter as he did spend too much time in the hospital and had not talked much with others for such a long time. His words haunted me a lot. And I still wonder how the second his family called him to announce his father’s sickness change his life. From the young who want to explore a new country full of different things, he now has to stay in Ha Noi to take care his mother – who has become a widow.
One woman who I met some years ago in a train to Lao Cai province told me that the man born in the lunar year of buffalo will have a difficult life. I am not superstitious but I sometimes wonder why my university life is that hard. When I start my university life, my major is biotechnology. However, after two years of studying, I switch to business major in another university. Until now, I still do not know exactly what I thought at that time. As the number of students is not adequate to open the program, I have to be moved in accounting course. Now I am working as an auditor of the biggest accounting firm in the world. And I still hate accounting so much as it is too detailed. Sometimes, I think about the decision which I made. I do not mean to become an accounting student, but I do choose not to become a scientist in biology field. It is still hard to clarify whether my decision is good or not; however, being able to make decision in life is also good enough.
When I saw the film “Rango”, there is one sentence which I like best: “no one can escape from its own story”. The gecko wants to go away; however, he will realize that he is not able to go out of his own destiny. I believe that there are some moments which are more important than most the time of our life. They might be our decision time or just happen as they should. Even though we have to make decisions in life, the results may not be our expectation. Moreover, sometimes things just happen and we have to cope with it. After all, those moments can wholly change our life in a way we cannot even dream of. When we were young, we cannot know for sure who we will become in the future. We were dreaming of being heroes, knights, astronauts or else. Then, when we grow up, the reality comes as we are the happy, the sorrow, the rich, the poor, winner, failure, or a combination of those. When we will be going to die in some point of time in the future, we look back and there is a completed picture of self. We may say to ourselves “if only” to some incidents in life; however, we should “let bygones be bygones” as no one is able to change its past. But it is still good for us to sometimes think about those moments: the moments which change our life.
P.S. Then what happened to us if there was no power-cut that day; and I did not sms you to continue the talk, TNST?
